You Are Where You Are Supposed To Be

“You are exactly where you are supposed to be.” The first time I heard that sitting in a classroom that was supposed to transform my life - well - to be honest, upset me. Actually, the words I said to myself was “F” you! That’s bullshit. You don’t know what I’ve been through! If I was where I wanted to be I wouldn’t be sitting here in your classroom!

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But I’ve come to realize, the wisdom in that statement is beyond just casual thought. How does it strike you? Are you like I was and feel a bit offended - or do you find yourself agreeing?

What does this statement truly mean? It’s heavy. It’s profound. Understand, this has nothing to do with where you “wish” to be, or even “desire“ to be. This is about comprehending your “being” and a reflection of how you ended up where you are - regardless of your health, wealth, environment, parents, job, friends, family, etc...in fact it is because of all those and much more that has you where you are today.

This simple statement is deep but after breaking it down one is left with a new knowing, a new understanding of themselves from a new frame of realization of how they arrived exactly where they are. As I said, first time I heard this I was quite taken aback. I didn’t get it. In fact it took me a while to truly comprehend its full meaning.

We are where we are supposed to be because each of our actions, our decisions throughout our lives had us arrive here, where we are today. This is the first step in taking responsibility for everything that has happened in our lives - external and internal. And it is only by taking full responsibility that ownership can take place. And with ownership now comes the ability to alter an unwanted pattern and/or begin making different decisions.

Without doubt some things are truly outside our control - the true events that happen to us - and no greater than our health. Poor choices along the way can certainly affect our health, but what if you are born with a disease, or deformity, or otherwise “healthy.” Or how about our race, culture, our environment? The dynamics of how we are introduced to this world are so varied it would be impossible to cover them all.

However, the self-victimizing of “Why Me?” is the greatest pitfall we can ever allow ourselves to fall into. Do we just sit back and play the blame game? We could and many do. But what about you? You’ve made it this far so keep reading.

How we have allowed ourselves to develop the handling of unwanted circumstances is within our control, and once we take responsibility for them, we can redirect our future’s path.

From there we begin to see where we are today. The stage is set for a transformation to occur.

You see, you are exactly where you are supposed to be based upon your decisions of each little step along your individual journey in life. When you begin to dig into what had you decide as you did, each year, each month, each day, each hour, of your living years, you begin to dissect an inner truth that goes way beyond and way deeper than simply “the man in the mirror” (or woman).

What drove those decisions? What created those actions that you did take at each of those moments? How about at one of those critical turning points in your life that takes place about every 7 years? A major turning point in your life?

By the time you’re 50, you’ve had anywhere from 7-10 of these events. And at the time of such, you may not have seen it as a “critical” decision, or maybe you did, but when you look back upon it now the realization is crystal clear that had you made a different decision you’re life would have taken a completely different turn.

And listen up! This is not about making the right or wrong decisions. That’s your ego talking to you. This is about understanding you beneath your ego, your core essence, that which is just outside your “I Am.”

So the real question now becomes what drove those decisions? What had you act in the way you did? It’s your behaviors. If you begin to unearth this you begin to see your beliefs. It is your belief structure that drives your behaviors which drive your actions.

I argue in my book that this is where most psychology begins with someone seeking help to overcome they’re challenges. But is this the root? Is this the core of how we ended up where we are today? No. And if “No” then there must be something that drives our beliefs - right? Maybe you’re beginning to catch on?

The core of everything that has to do with how we ended up here lies within our value system - and not just our value system but our core value system. This is deeper than the conscious mind knows. These are values that drive everything we do in life. These are the drivers that has us choose, most often subconsciously, what we do. These are what truly control our lives.

Digging in, getting to know your true core values is not so simple. They are embedded deep within your mind and by the time you are say 7 years old, are mostly with you for the rest of your life. Can they change? Absolutely!

For instance, severe trauma, or a significant emotional event in your life can instantly re-wire your neurons with a new core value of higher priority than the previous. As a result, how you view the world is instantly changed. Take a moment to reflect right now and you will find how true this is.

Uncovering our true core values can be accomplished. I’ve had it done for me and I’ve done so for others. It’s an arduous process but imperative if you truly wish to understand how it is you have chosen as you have throughout your life. And once uncovered, and seen by the conscious mind for what is probably the very first time, if desired, a change can be made.

Accepting you are exactly where you are supposed to be, is the first step to a new realization that you do have control of your destiny! If you are happy with your life and excited each day, then your core value system is truly aligned with your “I Am.” But if you feel out of alignment, or that statement was more a kick in the pants and you felt a bit offended, then maybe it’s time to unscrew and unearth, begin discovering your authentic truth.

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Intrigued to know more? I encourage you to get my book as I break all this down into concepts, stories, and experiences from my past and others. “Discovering Your Authentic Truth.” Discovering is an action word. Now is your time to take action and begin to understand who you are at a whole new level and create the life you dream of.

Reading

How did we as a nation develop the concept that schooling ends with school? Yet, for most people that is how learning through books is viewed. 

I did some research into adult reading and like all statistics numbers can reflect positively or negatively for whichever point you’re attempting to make. I’ll argue most adults, following their High School or College education, do not crack a book again for the sole intent of “learning.” Multiple studies show we are at our lowest casual reading levels in decades and that trend is continuing.

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You are either growing or decaying - right? How often I write on this. Unless required for work, many of us would rather not have to read to learn again. I definitely fell into that category until about 20 years ago when I was introduced to the world of self-help books. And what did I learn? Just how much wisdom and knowledge available to all of us I didn’t know existed! These books changed my life. 

Self-Improvement books, leadership books and worthy biographies are filled with wisdom, years of travelled experience, captured forever in the written word. An ongoing conversation for the reader to learn the shortcuts to success or simply a more fulfilling and happier life, written by an author who poured his or her learned knowledge and wisdom into their book for us forever - if we choose to read them. 

Without such reading you are left with only one other choice - figure it out on your own. And how much sadness do we see in the world today? It’s everywhere. We often feel we know best until we find ourselves learning yet another hard lesson in life. 

It is impossible to learn everything in one’s lifetime by experience alone. Reading classics such as “As A Man Thinketh,” “How to Win Friends and Influence People,” “Think and Grow Rich,” “The Power of Positive Thinking,” “The Laws of Success,” are a few quick examples of gaining such insights, allowing you greater access to a happier life with the least hardships along the way.

I believe you’ll find most successful entrepreneurs have read each of these or at least employ their concepts. They don’t look towards others to fix their problems. They create a way where there is no way and learn success principles allowing them to create the life they dream of. 

That’s what books of this nature do - they provide a broader horizon in which to tackle our daily lives. With so much suffering going on in today’s world, how different would life be experienced if everyone was filled with such wisdom? 

Here’s a truth I believe fully - an uneducated America will be a rewritten America. I wrote that in response to some of the ignorant statements thrown around last week in regards to our Nation’s Independence Day. Never before in the history of mankind is reading so available to the masses - yet what is the quality of what is being read? You don’t have to look far to find the answer to that.

Burning Desire

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It begins with a burning desire of a greater future that no one suggested but came from within. Your vision, your passion sets the stage for your determination to make things happen in your life. We are the masters of our destiny in a world of infinite possibilities - it’s not about wh ,at’s out there but what’s inside of you.

Get out of the “blame game” and take full responsibility for everything that happens in your life. Bad things occur we have no control over - how we deal with these establishes our character. If the vision is grand enough, and we do not allow ourselves to be attached to the outcome, setbacks teach us wisdom and bring us steps closer to the dream.

Too often people get too discouraged when things go “wrong” because they are attached. But when you let go of that attachment, and see setbacks as learnings, tools added to your toolbox of knowledge and wisdom, it’s because your vision is greater than disappointments and success is nearing.

Change Cannot Be Stopped

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Change

Being alive by definition means Change. Nothing living is stagnant. We may or may not experience a major metamorphosis in our lives but gradually, or slowly, change is happening to each of us. Each day, every day we are choosing who we will become. So a great question to ask yourself consistently is - am I “evolving” or “devolving?”

While on my way to Dallas, a 13 year old girl sitting next to me during the flight was reading the classic (>15 million copies sold), “How to win friends and influence people.”

Aghast!!!

I asked her how she heard of the book and she said her older brother. I asked what she has enjoyed most thus far - “That it was written so long ago and still applies to today” was her response. Wise girl!

I watched her engulfed in the book’s timeless message and life changing approach to living amongst others. She’d read a little, then sit there and contemplate. Fascinating to observe this young girl as she went through about 40 pages in all.

What are you doing right now to evolve? What choices are you making daily to become a better version of you? Powerful questions to ask yourself throughout your day.

Whether involved with a task or improving a relationship, approach it as the most important priority in your life and do your very best to ensure you are evolving, becoming your very best. And then spend a moment in reflection asking yourself what went supreme and what can I improve upon. Evolve 💝

~Namaste

Visions vs Goals

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One of my favorite things to ask is what’s your dream? Your vision for your future?

Some may have one but it is more a wish than a desire for they’ve not a clue of how to make it happen.

But I’d say most do not even have one. Ask those around you! You might be surprised.

Not everyone can see beyond tomorrow or even this day - they’re just getting by. But what happens tomorrow if you don’t have a dream for yourself; not others or family per say, but yourself, your growth, your evolution?

For if you don’t evolve how can you possibly accomplish greatness in others? It has to begin within yourself first.

Spend time on where you want to go - a great place to begin your focus is on 5 years from now, and then work backwards.

Take the time now so you don’t have to take the time later. Sit down with pen and paper and develop a plan. People plan vacations, their TV schedule, their party adventures, but rarely spend time planning their future.

Start with that dream of where you desire to be in 5 years and work backwards all the way to today. When you do so, you begin to create discipline, work ethic, achievable goals, and most importantly the emotion of deserving of success. Because without that “deserving of success” it will remain a wish.

Finding Jesus

Finding Jesus
An honest Reflection

By Guy Brilando
9 November 2017

 

            An atheist finds Jesus. Sound familiar? What is different from not knowing there is a God, to knowing to believing, to undying faith in God? For me, who has experienced every facet of the extremes I can say with clarity, Faith is so powerful, so overall encompassing that nothing in this world we experience can match it. The only thing that comes anywhere close is Love – in all its various forms.

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I’ve written and told this story so many times. But this morning I had a revelation that had me stop in awe. I was in a conversation and was talking about my NeoGenesis experience yet again. There is an exercise called a “Value Elicitation.” It’s a way of accessing the deep subconscious mind to uncover hidden programming as to why a person gets the results they do in a specific area of their life. In actuality, it provides a gateway to understanding the results in all aspects of a person’s life.

The area I chose to work on that day was my “Definitive Purpose.” As I was conversing this morning I told this person that the very first response that came from me was “Love.” Throughout that entire exercise of almost two hours, it was love that proved to be my greatest driver in life. I would do the same exercise two more times after accomplishing what is called “Timeline Therapy” which removed Anger, Sadness, and Fear at their root level of programming. The release for me was astounding but what emerged unequivocally was that Love is my greatest core value.

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So, as I wrote that today it hit me. Why is love my greatest most precious aspect of my identity? Jesus. It is in my love of Jesus and all it means to hold Him and the Holy Spirit deep in unwavering Faith.  That was the revelation. There is never any question in my mind that love is that significant in my life. All my productive activity is grounded in love. And now I truly understand why.

Now, what is it for those who do not have this Faith? I’m not saying you have to have Jesus in your heart in order to produce from love! That would be preposterous. But what is the difference between belief and faith?

True faith results in a changed worldview

"When we have true saving faith in Jesus Christ, we see the world and its system in an entirely different way. The Holy Spirit enlightens us as to the true nature of things and actually causes us to think differently, “For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit” (Romans 8:5). We are instructed to make this a goal of our spiritual life, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind” (Romans 12:2). If we truly are Christians, dedicated followers of Jesus Christ, we will grow more to see our existence the way God sees it.

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"“Belief” can be simply a passive mental acceptance which amounts to nothing when it comes to how it affects our life. Simply to say “I believe in God” means very little if it is merely coming from the lips and not from the heart. People can, and do, say that they ‘believe’ in God, but their lives never change at all. However, when one has true faith in God, one’s life cannot help but reveal this truth. True faith, dependence/reliance/trust, in God reveals itself in our actions, our thought life, and our priorities. A saving relationship with the Creator and Sustainer of the universe can result in nothing less than a radical readjustment of our entire worldview. We will love God with all our hearts and we will love others as we love ourselves (Matthew 19:19, 22:39; Mark 12:31; Luke 10:27; Romans 13:9; Galatians 5:14; James 2:8, and more Old Testament references)."

Read more: https://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/what-is-the-difference-between-faith-and-belief-a-bible-study/#ixzz4xxSRGdyn

As a side note, I believe true love with another human soul aligns with this explanation. It is more a Faith than Belief in the other person – that soul connection. This is something most of us have experienced at one time or another so if you do not believe or have Jesus in your heart, at least you can relate in some way. When you love someone so deeply, there is no doubt it impacts your perspective in all ways and creates a new life for yourself.

When that came out of me this morning, I realized an even greater impact that occurred in my life than previously recognized. And I was warmed all over. I found Jesus after searching for many years and although there was not that single “Aha” moment for me as there are with many, I believe what happened within me was accepting what I already knew existed in a new way. One day I simply realized I had Jesus in my heart. And how I knew was because that love within me became my primary driver in life. But I’m not sure I made the connection until just this morning.

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It’s so uplifting, to have Jesus with me wherever I go and with me for whatever I experience in this life – the great and the disappointments. The Holy Spirit was an aspect of the Trinity I didn’t fully grasp until just recently. I read in the Bible every day and the other day I read something that connected in a new way – the understanding that the Holy Spirit came after Jesus’s resurrection to be with us in all ways. I don’t know why I didn’t understand that before and maybe this new perspective is why I’ve also now been able to make that connection of why Love is my “I Am.”

The Paper Cup

The Paper Cup - Are you living AT CAUSE or IN EFFECT?

You're walking in your favorite park - your sanctuary. when you see this paper cup someone dropped on the ground right next to a trash can.

You have three choices:

1) Walk past unaffected

2) Get upset that someone wouldn't make the effort to throw it away properly

3) Greet the cup as an opportunity to make God's world a bit more beautiful, pick it up with loving grace and place it in the trash knowing someone else will now enjoy a cleaner park.

Additionally, you've done so with the compassion of those whose job it is to keep the park clean knowing they have one less cup to pick up.

One of the themes within my book is choosing to live in effect (option 2) or at cause (option 3). This applies to most every aspect of your life, especially in your language. Be aware of the words you use to describe your life- daily and overall. They create your reality!!!

Life is a series of choices. You can drop your trash on your self and others, or be considerate, even uplifting. The choice is yours alone to make throughout your journey each day. ❤

~Namaste~

Launching Out the Gate

Launching Out the Gate

A Derby to Business Momentum
by: Guy Brilando

 

How did I, a first time, self-published author hit Amazon's Best Sellers list and Hottest moving book on its launch debut? A first time author with an endorsement from Robert Kiyosaki, self-made billionaire who has the longest NYT best seller next to the Bible? Allow me to explain!

Derby: “A race or contest, usually one open to all who wish to enter and offering a prize for the winner.”

This is Dictionary.com’s 3rd definition for Derby.

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Every year, over the first weekend in May, many countries throughout the world along with our nation, tune in for the running of the Kentucky Derby.

Since 1875, Churchill Downs in Louisville Kentucky remains the crown jewel of horse racing and the first of the three races towards the Triple Crown. The race is exclusive to three-year-olds where they pour every ounce of their spirit into launching out of the gate for position, and then craftily manage their endurance for the ever-closing finish line.

What does it take to win such an elite race where the competition is so strong? It’s more than simply the three years in training of a single horse.

It takes a team of hundreds over the period of decades who have nurtured and cared for the lineage of that horse, racing for the roses at Churchill Downs.

And so it is with you. Whether you are an entrepreneur, an employee, a domestic engineer (responsible for your household), an athlete, or involved in most any endeavor, it is the teamwork behind the one out in front that creates the conditions for success.

From mental conditioning (to include ‘how’ you think), the vision, research, planning, productive activity, belief and more, the greater the team you have behind you aligned in all ways, the quicker and greater the successes will evolve.

When opportunity arises, it’s too late to prepare” is one of the most powerful statements you can ever internalize towards achieving your dreams. Being mindful of this on a daily basis puts you in the top 5% of your entire potential competition.

There is a team behind the horse nurtured from the day it is born. We see the horse pouring its soul into crossing that finish line first. It’s desire to win is steadfast during those precious two minutes around that 1 ¼ mile track.

But, it’s in the preparation for the victory that began year’s before the horse’s birth. And so it is with you in the years before actually entering the starting gate. Learning from and surrounding yourself with already proven winners in your desired field creates an environment of advantages to success.

And unlike the horse, here’s what you have total control over: You have the power of decision as to how hard you train and prepare while following the advice of your mentors (trainers).

The earlier you begin towards improving yourself on a daily basis the greater you empower yourself. When the opportunity you diligently are pursing finally presents itself, you can pounce on the opportunity you’ve longed for.

Putting forth your very best effort every day will have you happily galloping along!

By employing this simplistic strategy well in advance (even if the destination is currently unknown) you will have behind you everything required when entering the starting gate to launch yourself into first across the finish line.

That's the power behind the launch debut of "Discovering Your Authentic Truth." It's a great read and will inspire you to generate your team to take it to the next level.

 

 

Amy

Amy speaks from her heart and absolute truth. This is the theme of my book but it is the very transformational journey she has begun just a few weeks ago. It is a blessing and amazing to witness such monumental changes in a person's life.

There is genuine hope for anyone who is ready and willing to face their deepest fears from a place of love and compassion. 

They always say..."You have to love yourself first and then you'll find true love and happiness, etc etc...

But for me I thought I did love myself...what I didn't realize is that all of us lose parts of ourselves along the way and sometimes even get lost and buried by the things we all go through such as pain, loss, hurt or disappointment and sometimes even for reasons we're not aware, we lose our true self. But once we're able to find ourself again...our "true authentic self", the person we were meant to be...the past that had come to bury and mask the real us will slowly fade away making everything become clearer and clearer.

Then not only do all the things you long for and desire become possible and attainable but you start to enjoy and appreciate the journey as much as the destination...even the things you once looked at as the "bad stuff" or mistakes...We are all right where we need to be.

As crazy as that sounds I've come to discover it's truth and I'm thankful for the teachings and inspirations from Guy Brilando author of "Discovering Your Authentic Truth" for helping me find my way back to me :)
💝Amy Williams

Attracting Your Soulmate

What is the secret to being found or finding your soulmate?

I was up early this morning when a Facebook post caught my attention. It asked, do we find or are we found by our soul mate? My immediate thought was we attract who we are so we better get that part right – first!

 

 

Your subconscious mind will unconsciously send you signals and provide you guidance when meeting someone new, your gut instincts. Even when the attraction piece is overwhelming, most often, people in a broken relationship will mention that there was something in their gut warning them but they ignored it.

Why is it so challenging to find the right, long term partner? I believe the answer lies in core values. In my book coming out in March, Discovering Your Authentic Truth, I devote two chapters to Relationships, the second being focused on intimate relationships.

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Here is what I’ve discovered in my transformational work with others and my own experience gained from books, lectures, and people. We long to have a soulmate. One we can share our lives with. But many also reach a point in their lives where they are just done with the search. They’ve been battered and beaten one too many times or they are at a stage in their life where being comfortable alone, their own boss outweighs the danger of possibly letting that go.

I do believe we are meant to be loved and to love another on an intimate level. So why is this so darn difficult for so many? I believe the answer is in “Core Values.” Core values drive our behaviors, which drive our actions, and ultimately, drive our results.

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Core values are as deep as you can go within your spirit and soul before coming to your I Am, your essential essence. Your I Am is love. Your core values are the result of your programming beginning upon birth. Core values include God, character, integrity, family, conscientiousness, discipline, authenticity, success, honesty, service, kindness, loyalty, fulfillment, forgiveness, honor, respect, and many, many more. 

 

As we age, this love core center of your I Am, begins to get cluttered with life, and for many, the longer they live, this clutter can all but bury their I Am to the point they’ve lost touch with it all together. This also makes understanding what your mind values most is masking your true core values.

There are techniques and ways for a guide to unearth what these true core values are in the context of intimate relationships. But, if you sat in meditative thought for long periods of time, you can unearth them yourself. And if you are one of these people searching for your soulmate, I strongly suggest you do.

 

You see, until you fully understand your core values around intimate relationships, you will not be in alignment with what you attract into your life. By first understanding what these core values are, you are that much closer to the love core that you are. At that level, your understanding of who you are is greater and in essence will help you fall in love with who you are. And if you don’t like what you find in this process of unearthing your core values, then it is your core values that may need adjusting.

Once you know who you are and what you value most in an intimate relationship, then you can meditate on the next step: determining what core values are most important to you in a partner. This is deeper than looks, money, or status. All that will come exactly as it is supposed to be once you realize both sets of core values.

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From here, it is simply putting out the energy to the Universe in the form of questions and thought to attracting the man or woman of your dreams. He or she will possess the qualities you desire and, as a bonus, you will be sexually attracted as well.